Thinking of Relocating? 4 Things You’ll Need to Do First

The past five years of my life have been marked by constant movement. I have spent these past few years relocating from beloved college towns to bustling cities. My journey (so far) looks something like this:

Map of RelocatingEach move came as the result of incredible opportunities that helped me gain professional experience and grow as an individual. But I’ll be honest: The constant instability and uncertainty that came along with each move was overwhelming at times.

Whether you are a recent college graduate searching for your first job or a professional embarking on a new career path, the decision whether or not to move to a new city can be difficult. It can be tempting to jump right into a new adventure, but there are crucial aspects of your life you need to consider before biting the bullet and relocating to a new city.

I had to learn the hard way that many logistical and emotional challenges accompany these major transitions. If you are considering relocating, take a moment to do the following:

Consider your networks

Do you have family or friends in the area that can help to ease your transition? Are you in a serious relationship with someone who has a career established in a different location? Our social networks play a crucial role in our lives, so you will want to consider the opportunities and consequences relocating will have on these relationships.

Reflect on what your first couple months of college looked like if you moved away from home to go to school. Did you thrive by immersing yourself in a new environment and creating new relationships? Or did it take you some time to cope with the separation from your family and friends back home? Looking back on your transition into college can provide you with a strong idea of how you may handle relocating to a new area in which you may have less networks established.

Take a visit

If you haven’t actually been to the area you are looking at, you have to make a trip before you make your decision! Big cities in particular can be represented in movies and on social media as glamorous, dream homes. What we don’t often see in these images is the day-to-day experiences of living in these cities.

Exploring the city will give you the opportunity to get a feel for the culture and see if it seems like it fits well with your values and interests. It can be tricky to get a complete picture of a city’s culture with one trip, so use tools like StreetAdvisor to learn more about specific neighborhoods and places to explore in the area.

Assess your finances

Moving is an expensive endeavor when you consider the cost of moving your belongings, signing a new lease, and buying essentials for your apartment. Think honestly about your income to expenses ratio. This may be your dream city, but is it financially feasible?

Look at apartment prices and average cost of living expenses to evaluate your ability to support your lifestyle financially. You can use tools like the cost of living calculator to compare prices of essentials to give you concrete numbers to reference when outlining a budget. Don’t forget to consider the nonessentials too – you’ll want to have a little extra cash to explore the city and have some fun!

Think long-term

Be honest with yourself: Is this a job that will provide opportunities to grow in the future or is it a first-job-out-of-college situation? You’ll want to be sure that this decision aligns with your values and long-term goals before making the commitment to move. Consider whether you or not you see yourself staying at your workplace or city for the long haul, or if you think of this more as a stepping stone for bigger goals.


By doing these four things, you will set yourself up to make the decision that is right for you. Making the decision is only the first step; the Advice from a Twentysomething blog offers 5 steps to follow if you choose to move to the new city. These tips will help ease your transition and get you off to a strong start.

Regardless of the decision you make, take a moment for gratitude for the opportunity in front of you. Having the ability to make a major change and advancement in your life is both a blessing and a direct result of your dedication to your goals. Look at this opportunity with honesty to yourself and openness to your future. 



The Quarter-Life Crisis: Let’s Talk About It

quarter-life crisis



a crisis that may be experienced in one’s twenties, involving anxiety over the direction
and quality of one’s life

Sound familiar?  It’s that overwhelming sense that you need to have your career and life figured after several years post-graduation, but are still facing a lot of instability and uncertainty in your life. Hint: it’s kind of why I’m writing this blog.

The quarter-life crisis is running rampant amongst young professionals. In fact, the Guardian reported that 86% of millennials have experienced some of the characteristics associated with this phenomenon, including insecurity, disappointment, and even depression.

Why is this happening to so many people? Well, it’s a pretty messy mix of things coming together all at once:

We’ve discovered college ≠ career

We’ve been told our entire lives that the path to success in adulthood looks something like this: Work hard in school, get into a “good” university, study hard take opportunities as they come, graduate with your degree, land your dream job doing what you love.

It’s just not that easy.

The bachelor’s degree is the new high school diploma: more employers are seeking candidates with at least a bachelor’s degree for entry-level positions that formerly were  granted to individuals without a college education. That means that a degree alone isn’t the only thing you need to land that job.

You’ve gotta have experience.

College gets you the degree, but doesn’t guarantee the work experience. Millennials oftentimes fall into the quarter-life crisis when they face this realization during their initial job search after graduation. Many end up taking positions completely unrelated to their educational background to get by, creating a sense of being lost and resentful.

We’re drowning in debt

A college degree may not promise you your dream job, but it almost certainly guarantees a hefty pile of debt to pay off. The average amount of student loan debt held by millennials is roughly $30,000. We can defer payment on our loans if we are unemployed or financially unable to make payments after graduation, but that doesn’t stop interest from building on our loans.

Being saddled with this level of debt right out of college has caused many millennials to push back major milestones. Millennials are waiting longer to get married and buy homes because of financial restrictions. Forget the mid-life crisis: Our life timelines have shifted so drastically that we now have the quarter-life crisis.

In fact, the timeline of our parents’ generation simply doesn’t apply to current twenty somethings anymore. We are facing debt levels and living expenses that far exceed what was faced in the generation before us. As a generation, we are collectively coping with the reality that our twenties simply won’t play out the way we thought they were supposed to.

We live in the age of social media

It seems inescapable. We have our phones with us at all times, and having a social media presence has become a societal norm. If you’re not using social media, you’re out of the loop. If you’re on social media (which, of course you are), you see everyone’s highlight reel.

Scroll through Instagram and you’ll see the beautiful pictures from your former classmate’s vacation in Italy. Log onto Facebook and you’ll see your best friend’s sparkling new engagement ring. You get it… Everyone else is living the perfect life except you.

Social media has been linked to increased isolation and higher levels of depression with frequent users. It makes sense: When we’re constantly exposed to the highlight reels of our peers, it’s only natural to compare ourselves and feel down that our life doesn’t seem to stack up.

It’s not all that bad though…

Although there are some pretty big challenges facing us in our twenties, we won’t lose sight of the bigger picture. The quarter-life crisis is temporary; little by little, we work through the frustration, anxiety, and uncertainty to come out more confident and capable than before.

Despite the downsides of life as a twenty-something in the twenty first century, there are so many benefits. New technologies connect us in ways that give us incredible opportunities to share our stories with one another. We have the ability to seek tools and resources to set ourselves up for success in our careers, and find information that will help us cope with all of the emotional challenges we face during these times.

My hope is that this blog will become one of the tools that helps you work through some of the challenges you may be feeling during a quarter-life crisis. We have the power to set ourselves up for success in our twenties, so let’s do it.